“Love is such a vast sea, it has neither edges nor ends nor corners.”~Rumi
Love is such an amazing feeling. It is also scientifically proven that when we are in love, our brain works differently. Love cures everything within us. Love focusses you and love is the only thing which makes you constantly smile. When we are in love we tend to draw borders for our reach. We want to be in control of our love. We want to own our love as much as we can. With the need to own comes a lot of expectations and possessiveness. We tend to bind the beloved to us and we want them with us no matter what happens. When there is a even slightest thought about them not being with us, we get furious. Anger always follows possessiveness. The more we hold the beloved tight, the more we suffocate the beloved. The minute you get angry, please watch that suspicion follows you. These are the qualities of love which do not make it love. Expectation, Possessiveness, Anger and Suspicion. These are giant killers of love . We always feel that this is what love is. Look around, you will find these qualities which is driving most of the families. Why do you think that today’s love is completely ridden with such problems?
We are now “falling” in love, which restricts love. Only when we “raise” in love – it opens up beyond borders.
Whenever you have borders to anything – be it your thoughts, your work, your mind or your heart – it starts to contain you. Love’s nature is unconditional. You cannot express love based on certain conditions. The minute you remove the borders, you will see you will soar. It is one of the most difficult acts. To remove the borders of love, to make it like a sea, to grow in love – you just need one quality. Trust. The more you trust your beloved, you will see all the negative thoughts of love start to disappear. Expectation does not find a place as you will start realising the beloved is yours no matter what they do or they don’t do. You can never be possessive of anything which you trust the most. Over a period of time that trust even goes beyond the beloved. Possessiveness is attachment to the present form of the beloved. Trust makes you go beyond that present form. Anger is replaced with calmness the minute you have trust. Anger gets replaced by patience. If your beloved is not in his/her best today, you will wait for the best day to come. When that day comes, you will relish it beyond doubt. Trust kills suspision. Period.
Grow in love. Take your beloved with complete trust. Remove expectations. Remove the borders of your love. Consciously make your love unconditional. Every day, you will relish your love. Love is beyond edges and corners. Your heart is limitless.