“Give your weakness to one who helps.” ~ Rumi
We have been living in a world where showing your weakness is considered really bad. When you cannot express weakness and if it has a negative connotation, why would you even uncover your weakness? We have become so used to not just seeing it, but live in a state of denial about our weakness. Only when we know what is less, we can then seek for it. There must not be any hindrances in us to go and seek what is missing in us. Accepting that we do not have someone or something is the first step towards getting there. Why do we have to see weakness in a negative light? What you do not have or possess is something that you can get or acquire. Why make a big issue out of it? When you are able to see weaknesses in this light – first acceptance is born. You accept yourself that you have some and you do not have some other. There is absolutely no right or wrong. That comes only in a state of pure acceptance. Denial has no place in this, denial is living in a constant veil of a misconception. The minute you remove denial, everything is fine. what you have and what you do not have. These lines of Rumi are part of a longer poem, which has these lines too.
Crying out loud and weeping are great resources. A nursing mother, all she does is wait to hear her child. Just a little beginning-whimper, and she’s there.
The more you deny, the more weak you get. Let go and you are free.
What we are taught is to contain and not display our weaknesses. It is true that the more we keep them, they stay with you, making you more weak. Why deny something which you do not want? If you do not want something you must let it go, or fill it with what can take that away. You have to cry out loud of your weakness. You must believe that someone is there to take care of your weakness. A mother is always waiting for the child’s cry. She knows what to do to remove that weakness of the child. The more the child contains, the more it suffers. The minute the mother knows, the pain is gone. You have to first know where and how you are weak, say it aloud, be open and willing to let go. You do not need to be weak, you need the strength and someone is willing to give you that. Only when you consciously know what you need, you will find it. Only when you are empty, you can fill yourself. Never let weaknesses fill you, for there is no space for strength. Pour it out so your mother will come. The mother who can nurse all your wants.
There is no point of being a stone. You are made of emotions and weaknesses. There is absolutely no denial in that, let the emotions flow, let your tears out, howl in knowing your weakness – goodness and strength awaits to fill you up!