Closely far

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“I am so close, I may look distant.” – Rumi

We all have attachments to something or someone. Our attachments make our life. They give us a reason to live. To be associated to something or someone is the motivation for us to do more. Attachments make this society as it is. Attachment to discipline gives rise to rules of the society, attachment to wealth gives rise to economy, attachment to relationships gives rise to family, attachment to greed gives rise to crime and so on. We live in a world where being attached is the natural thing to do. Generally, attachments give emotions their life. Emotions make a human being. We are all emotional at some level. If you remove the attachment – or be detached – you will have lesser and lesser of emotions. That is not seen as a good thing, we are seen as cold people who do not value anything. Everything we do, we develop a strong bond, strong attachment to and the world today, celebrates attachment. The bond we share to our geographical borders as patriotism, to our money earning work as success, to our public speaking as a leader, to our wealth as pride, to our relationships as caring and so on. We need a bond, we need an attachment, we need someone to care for us. That sense of caring is what makes us feel that this life is worthwhile.

Attachment shortens your vision, detachment just broadens it.

When we are attached, we tend not to see beyond. The thing or person whom we are attached attracts us so much, that it clogs our vision. Even if we like to see beyond, the pull is so great that you cannot see beyond a limit. Or wherever you see, you see that person or thing manifest. The minute we detach ourselves from that attachment, you will see a lot more. Many things which were the reason for your bonding become clear. But why do we have to detach? Attachment shortens your vision, detachment just broadens it.A strong sense of attachment brings as much misery. The more you are attached, the more you suffer when it does not go your way. The pain it brings is as harsh as the pleasure it brings. Today, we are drained emotionally – why? The root cause of all that is how close you were to that thing or someone which has brought you such pain. When you detach yourself, as you see a lot more things surrounding it, the lesser you are affected. Your world is much larger than that small attachment.

You are not meant to be small. Your heart and soul is limitless. Attachments brings your capacity down to just a few relationships or things. Open up. See your world much beyond the few elements. You and your soul is capable of not just this world, but this universe. What is in you is the power and capacity of what runs this universe. Detach yourself – even when being close to someone or something. Broaden your vision, its a wonderful and peaceful world then, just inside you.

Corners of love

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“Love is such a vast sea, it has neither edges nor ends nor corners.”~Rumi

Love is such an amazing feeling. It is also scientifically proven that when we are in love, our brain works differently. Love cures everything within us. Love focusses you and love is the only thing which makes you constantly smile. When we are in love we tend to draw borders for our reach. We want to be in control of our love. We want to own our love as much as we can. With the need to own comes a lot of expectations and possessiveness. We tend to bind the beloved to us and we want them with us no matter what happens. When there is a even slightest thought about them not being with us, we get furious. Anger always follows possessiveness. The more we hold the beloved tight, the more we suffocate the beloved. The minute you get angry, please watch that suspicion follows you. These are the qualities of love which do not make it love. Expectation, Possessiveness, Anger and Suspicion. These are giant killers of love . We always feel that this is what love is. Look around, you will find these qualities which is driving most of the families. Why do you think that today’s love is completely ridden with such problems?

We are now “falling” in love, which restricts love. Only when we “raise” in love – it opens up beyond borders.

Whenever you have borders to anything – be it your thoughts, your work, your mind or your heart – it starts to contain you. Love’s nature is unconditional. You cannot express love based on certain conditions. The minute you remove the borders, you will see you will soar. It is one of the most difficult acts. To remove the borders of love, to make it like a sea, to grow in love – you just need one quality. Trust. The more you trust your beloved, you will see all the negative thoughts of love start to disappear. Expectation does not find a place as you will start realising the beloved is yours no matter what they do or they don’t do. You can never be possessive of anything which you trust the most. Over a period of time that trust even goes beyond the beloved. Possessiveness is attachment to the present form of the beloved. Trust makes you go beyond that present form. Anger is replaced with calmness the minute you have trust. Anger gets replaced by patience. If your beloved is not in his/her best today, you will wait for the best day to come. When that day comes, you will relish it beyond doubt. Trust kills suspision. Period.

Grow in love. Take your beloved with complete trust. Remove expectations. Remove the borders of your love. Consciously make your love unconditional. Every day, you will relish your love. Love is beyond edges and corners. Your heart is limitless.

Seeing beyond

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“Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.” ~ Rumi

Everyday we meet people. With some we become comfortable in an instant, with some we feel we knew them forever. With some we have a repulsion without even uttering a word, with some we feel no connect. With some we fall in love, with some we think we knew them from the past. With some we get inspired from, with some we have an unknown liking towards. With some we feel a soul’s connect with some we want to share our lives. With some we fight, with some we are forced to have a relationship with. With some we just want to have a minimal relationship with, with some we have fantasies about. With some we we melt like butter, yet with others unknowingly we hurt with the words we utter. With some we long to be with ever, with some people around we cannot adjust however. With some we share admiration, with few others we have a deep obsession.

Why do so many types of feelings and emotions are evoked in us but just having others around? Why are we so different with so many different people? Why this is happening to us?

Experience everyone around you. Every emotion is your lesson.

We are meant to understand ourselves by the experiences we have everyday. Each and every experience we have every moment is a mentor to us. It makes us either strong or weak that instant, but in the vision of life it only makes you better. You learn consciously and unconsciously in this human form. Every emotion is your lesson. We have to watch ourselves from being outside, then you can feel the actor in you. How you are performing in this stage of life. The minute you watch yourself from outside, the whole world makes perfect sense. It makes sense for the body to have these experiences, the mind within to tame itself and desires which learn to be satisfied. But the soul is not affected by these. The soul has to watch all these and witness the performance. The more it is watching, the more you will realise that everything happens for a reason. Every person is helping you evoke the emotion so that your body is satisfied. The minute you see this – you are convinced more and more that you are not the body. That is the purpose of this life. To be able to see that you are much beyond what you perceive as.

When you see everyone who is coming your way as mentors, the first thing which happens is you detach yourself. Secondly, more importantly you are able to control the emotions you display. If you see everything as a mere experience, why will you get angry? where will hatred originate from? where will expectation see itself? where is jealousy going to manifest? where is lust going to  show up? All you are left with is empathy for the other person. You really want to help the other person get that experience to overcome their expression. That is a beautiful state to be in.