Opening Up

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Who gets up early to discover the moment light begins? ~ Rumi

There are many things in life we take for granted. Lets begin with something which most of us have – relationships. When we have someone around us, doing something for us – we feel very thankful that it is happening to us may be just for the first few days. After that, once that it becomes a routine, we just take it as normal and even many times take it for granted. This moves as true it is with individuals to other things which are around us. Nature – is the singlemost resource we take for granted. How many times have we thought about where the water comes when we turn our taps in the morning or how thankful are for the bees which we always feel as a disturbance? We even tend to forget the relationships that nature has nurtured for us. As they are available most of the time, we have gotten so used to it. When the nature shows its dissent in some ways, then we tend to realize how small we are compared to this whole manifestation. When everything works well, especially like clockwork we can only assume that it is not going to end nor even comprehend that we will be without it. So, when the inevitable happens what happens in our thought process? The first thing is that we complain – How is it even possible? Why does this person do this to me? I am at suffering and that cause or person is responsible. This is ironical, as in the first place – what you received was only a favor. You felt that favor only for a few moments and forgot that favor part and thought it was part of your goodwill to get it. That is the biggest mistake we all make.

To appreciate every minute, forget the past and live the moment completely, fully.

To become alive, to open up constantly and appreciate what you have – we must not carry the past with us. Only because of the past we assume, take for granted what we already have. If you had to start every minute of yours afresh – everything seems to be a blessing once again. You completely appreciate everything you have, totally in gratitude and life becomes so fulfilling. To open up, simply means to empty. Unless we are empty and willing to receive, there is no point of opening up. We need to be reminded that everything around us happens for a reason and because we have everything around us, we need to be full of gratitude. There are so many beings which do not have the blessing and life that we have. We are fortunate, we have been taken care and we are already abundant. The point is to realize that the past cannot give us anything new, the future cannot promise either – so being in the moment to appreciate fully is our only hope. How do we practice to empty ourselves everyday? We need to give up our beliefs, our prejudices, our assumptions, our hatred, our jealousies, our conditions and our thinking – that is how you empty. The minute you are free from these, you are ready to receive and at the same time look at what we already we have to appreciate every minute of it. It is a very special feeling, it does not give you any tiredness it only opens you up, making you blossom everyday, like a fresh new flower appreciating the moment light begins and being full of gratitude for it.

(If you are interested, this is part of a longer poem by Rumi….which is from “The Essential Rumi” which is below, obviously english translation loses the original charm, but we have only this choice 🙂

Who gets up early
to discover the moment light begins?
Who finds us here circling, bewildered, like atoms?
Who comes to a spring thirsty
and sees the moon reflected in it?
Who, like Jacob blind with grief and age,
smells the shirt of his lost son
and can see again?
Who lets a bucket down and brings up
a flowing prophet?
Or like Moses goes for fire
and finds what burns inside the sunrise?

Jesus slips into a house to escape enemies,
and opens a door to the other world.
Soloman cuts open a fish, and there’s a gold ring.
Omar storms in to kill the prophet
and leaves with blessings.
Chase a deer and end up everywhere!
An oyster opens his mouth to swallow on drop.
Now there’s a pearl.
A vagrant wanders empty ruins.
Suddenly he’s wealthy.

But don’t be satisfied with stories, how things
have gone with others. Unfold
your own myth, without complicated explanation,
so everyone will understand the passage,
We have opened you.

Start walking toward Shams. Your legs will get heavy
and tired. Then comes a moment
of feeling the wings you’ve grown,
lifting.

Love’s child

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“I am a child of love.” ~ Rumi

When you are in love, many things do not matter. Everyone around us thinks us to be insane, but we continue to bask in love. We enjoy that very moment and we are oblivious to everything else. The true nature of love is to let go of everything. Any fault does not matter for love. You do not expect anything except that you be in that love. Nothing else matters. Remember the time you were in absolute love, you did not want to eat, sleep, talk, move or do anything. You just enjoyed being in that moment, in that love completely. That love is precious, rare and unique to yourself. It is also true that what you feel at peace with the moment, might not be for someone else. Every individual has that moment of love, that moment which they do not want to give away. Love increases multifold if you are able to have a conversation in silence with the beloved. It is not words that grow love, it is the lack of it. If you are able to quietly communicate, your thoughts and feelings expand multifold. It is such a wonderful feeling to be in love and be loved, and understand and be understood and be romantic and be romanced – all without uttering a word, without an action. A mere glance of an eye, the presence of the beloved or just a simple thought of the other – gives you so much peace and love.

We all are made of just pure love, all we need to do is to unlock the heart.

When you are a child of love, you just live now. You are devoid of expectations and just want to enjoy the moment. More than anything, you are a child. A child has no pre-conceived notions, nor expectations of tomorrow. The child just resonates with the present and enjoys the moments around it. He or She smiles to the environment and does nothing but to emanate love. The child just melts away your thoughts and brings you to realize the precious moments of love. Being with that child just makes you calmer. When you start being in love and emanate love unconditionally to everyone around you, you become that child, you make the place more peaceful and calmer. You do not distinguish from one to another. The love in your heart for your beloved, emanates to everyone around you. You give and receive love. The more unconditional it is, the better the environment becomes. You just become the centerpiece of attention in any place you are. People naturally come towards you, no one can reject true love, everyone needs a bit of pure love, everyone gravitates towards love.

Be a child, a love’s child. That innocence of not differentiating anyone to receive your pure love, that love which does not have any expectations of the future nor the memories of the past, that love which is unconditional, that love which makes everyone bask in your positive thoughts, that love which has nothing to offer except peace and that love which never ends. All you have to do is to open up!

Silent Love

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“Love said to me, there is nothing that is not me. Be silent.”~ Rumi

We are full of words. We want to express, we want to be heard and we do not want to stop talking. Look around us, look at us. We want to speak. Given a chance to speak amidst someone we rarely watch ourselves. We want to establish our authority amidst wherever we are. We use our speech for that. The more we want to be heard, the louder we tend to speak. We have now grown to speak so much, that even before someone finishes a sentence – we are ready with our answer. We have lost the art of listening. That being one way, the other way is being convinced that we can only be heard when we speak. We are so much in belief that if we don’t speak, we will never be heard. In this life, it has become such that if you are quiet – then you are ignored. We have many lessons that only when you make noise, you will get what you wanted. We are totally surrounded by noise. When we look at nature, it remains quiet for sometime. Even the trees stand still, the river moves ever so quiet, the ocean has its quietness just after the beach. How do we even start visualizing a moment when we are really getting what we want, but without uttering a word? How can we be sure that we are being heard? How can silence really communicate how much we mean to others or how much they mean to us?

Every thought in silence runs really deep. Trust the silence to be heard well.

When you really want to communicate in silence, you have to build trust. You have to trust the other person that they are so tuned to you, that without you uttering a word, they are hearing you well. Nature has a way to send your message across. If that message is immediate and relevant, it will reach the other instantly. If the time is not yet ready, it does appear to take time. How can you know all of this, if you do not trust? Trust is so inherent in love. You have to place everything you know and do not know – on the present moment and just be. That living in the present is full of trust and life. You do not have any expectations on seeing an expression or reply in words from the other person. When everything around you is love, how can your message not reach the beloved?. It is such a beautiful moment of wait – when you really trust and accept and wait. Even if you have to express happiness, anger, frustration or extreme affection – trust, accept and wait. Love will make you heard.

It is hard to visualize how silence can really communicate. Silence not only allows you to communicate externally – it is the only way to communicate internally to yourself. When you stop speech – your soul does the talking. That is not just a talk, but a unique melodious song.

Pull of love

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“Let yourself be silently drawn by the stronger pull of what you really love.”~ Rumi

We are taught to be very logical. Everything we know must be justified by a logic. We tend to put a formula to our likings. We want to like and possess things which we can wrap our heads around. If our mind does not understand something, then it must be wrong. The way to decide right and wrong is based on logic. We are taught right and wrong and we are guided by what we are taught and what we know all our lives and wrapped around logic. We add layers on top of this – we either dismiss things which we cannot place logic around and become extremely possessive about things which make perfect sense for us in our heads. We rarely trust our instincts in the first place. Even when we want to go with our feel – which is not from the mind, but from our heart – we are cautious. We question it completely. When our mind gets satisfied with something or a person, we again complicate it by expecting it to go our way. Because fundamentally we placed logic around it, the thing or relationship has to perform. If it does not perform, possessiveness takes over and we get upset. All this happens because we are not letting go from the start.

Dance freely with the song, let the wind take you to the place you belong.

If we remove logic from us, go straight to the soul to follow it constantly, we are guided by the love which pulls us. We no longer are listening to our mind, no longer have attachments or expectations, we are not bound to what we seek, rather we are liberated from the start. If you trust the song, you will dance as long as you want. You are not expecting the next step, but rather enjoying the dance. You do not care what the next step will be or where it will take you. Dance, smile and enjoy that moment. Let the soul take you to where you belong. Completely trust that it will only take you to what you love. Soul knows your love. Go to that thing or person with total trust and full of love. Be just the clay in the hands of the beloved. Let the beloved take care of you, mould you and enjoy that care and process of being made into something you love. That is what you are supposed to be. Do not add the experience of where you came from to where you are going. They are two different places, be open to explore that place which is drawing you. That person who is waiting with the love. Just go and surrender.

We are trained not to trust the other. Nature feeds every soul in this planet and also directs us to the beloved. Just don’t force yourself on something or someone even if the message comes from the heart. Go beyond, let your soul be your guide. That love rests only in the soul. That place where the soul takes you is truly where you belong. Make that your home!

Ocean drop

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“You are not a drop in the ocean, You are the entire ocean in a drop.” ~ Rumi

We are easily overwhelmed. When we look at our world and the universes’ beyond that, we realize we are really tiny. At the same time, we own this universe, our own way. We do pride ourselves about being here and taking what is available to us as granted. We are swinging most of our times imagining to be the rulers of our own world where our ego takes over us and sometimes feeling really small in all the grandeur around. We are belittled by others and sometimes by ourselves. Duality owns us and we keep swinging. The duality of remembering that we are small and at the same time being one with the universe. To remain conscious at both levels is quite difficult – because it needs us to kill the ego. When you are one with nature and you realise that you are no different from it, ego gets replaced with oneness. Is it possible to constantly remember that you are part of the all powerful universe and that you have the same qualities all within you – at the same time remain grounded? How can you remove the “you” but get totally replaced with “us” – which is being with the larger you and larger ocean.

Being one with the world replaces “you”. Then, you are the universe.

When you see yourself with immense potential – the grandeur of what this universe offers, the energy in which creation happens, the perfection in which the dance of nature performs, the uniformity in evolution, the love of souls binding every second – all of it makes sense. You can become what is reflected in this amazing universe. Everything has a reason to happen this way and your faith is totally restored in trust of destiny. You are here for a reason and that reason is what drives the larger existence as well. You are definitely not alone – every soul on this planet can dance with you in unison. You can be at peace with the same frequency which guides this manifestation of the wonderful nature. All you need is to discover your tune, discover your steps, discover your act and just let go. Your performance in this great play will automatically begin. You will lose yourself. Your identity will no longer matter. You are the universe, you are the ocean. When a drop merges with the ocean, it loses itself. It no longer identifies itself as a drop. When a breath merges with the atmosphere, it loses itself. It is not with pain, it is not with agony – just being so natural. Where it really belongs. Losing the ego in pleasure is an amazing feeling. You just have to re-discover. You already know it.

Go ahead, find yourself and the potential you have – which is not different. Do not force to do anything, once you find the rythym, you hear the already manifested song. You will automatically let go of yourself – as that is the place where you rightly belong. Any place is magical – as you are in sync, one with the universe. It is such a bliss.

Closely far

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“I am so close, I may look distant.” – Rumi

We all have attachments to something or someone. Our attachments make our life. They give us a reason to live. To be associated to something or someone is the motivation for us to do more. Attachments make this society as it is. Attachment to discipline gives rise to rules of the society, attachment to wealth gives rise to economy, attachment to relationships gives rise to family, attachment to greed gives rise to crime and so on. We live in a world where being attached is the natural thing to do. Generally, attachments give emotions their life. Emotions make a human being. We are all emotional at some level. If you remove the attachment – or be detached – you will have lesser and lesser of emotions. That is not seen as a good thing, we are seen as cold people who do not value anything. Everything we do, we develop a strong bond, strong attachment to and the world today, celebrates attachment. The bond we share to our geographical borders as patriotism, to our money earning work as success, to our public speaking as a leader, to our wealth as pride, to our relationships as caring and so on. We need a bond, we need an attachment, we need someone to care for us. That sense of caring is what makes us feel that this life is worthwhile.

Attachment shortens your vision, detachment just broadens it.

When we are attached, we tend not to see beyond. The thing or person whom we are attached attracts us so much, that it clogs our vision. Even if we like to see beyond, the pull is so great that you cannot see beyond a limit. Or wherever you see, you see that person or thing manifest. The minute we detach ourselves from that attachment, you will see a lot more. Many things which were the reason for your bonding become clear. But why do we have to detach? Attachment shortens your vision, detachment just broadens it.A strong sense of attachment brings as much misery. The more you are attached, the more you suffer when it does not go your way. The pain it brings is as harsh as the pleasure it brings. Today, we are drained emotionally – why? The root cause of all that is how close you were to that thing or someone which has brought you such pain. When you detach yourself, as you see a lot more things surrounding it, the lesser you are affected. Your world is much larger than that small attachment.

You are not meant to be small. Your heart and soul is limitless. Attachments brings your capacity down to just a few relationships or things. Open up. See your world much beyond the few elements. You and your soul is capable of not just this world, but this universe. What is in you is the power and capacity of what runs this universe. Detach yourself – even when being close to someone or something. Broaden your vision, its a wonderful and peaceful world then, just inside you.

Being you

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“Appear as you are. Be as you appear.” ~ Rumi

Duality is in all of us. We do not want to reveal ourselves as much as we like to, simply because we might be taken for granted. People might use us, leverage our weaknesses and put us down. The more sophisticated this life becomes, the more faces we have and every time hide the many faces. The more you become unreadable to someone else, you are seen as a very successful person. The more you own about yourself, the little others know about you. That veil of pretension is what you get praised for. We see this all around us. We are continuously deceived by people around us whom we trust the most and also somewhere even though small, we deceive others. It is the level of duality we all are, but the truth is deception. Deception comes purely because we live in fear. There is an element of fear in our lives – fear of unmasking ourselves. The fear to let go of our various skins. The fear of being naked in front of yourself. We adore ourselves with the multiple faces we own, similar to the pride of owning and wearing so many clothes. Everyday we dress ourselves with a new cloth, a new face and a new you. It is just adding layers to yourself. It is amazing how we never had any of these pretensions when we were growing up. When we were children, we were just having one face. That one face just reflected who you were. Look around our children- they always are what they are. Never afraid to cry for the simplest things, never scared of letting their emotions go away, never holding on to their aspirations.

Looking at yourself, peel the layers off you from yourself.

Courage replaces fear. The minute you become bold and want to go back to your own self, you are extremely courageous. You do not worry about the faces, what matters is just that one face – the naked self which you will be to everyone including you. It is all about accepting who you are, however you are. It is about letting go of your skins and expressing you as you are. When you start doing this, everyone around you might not like it. People and relationships which came to you looking at your other skins, will leave you. The more you let go of people around you, the more original you can become. The lesser you put up your acts, the more real you become. There is no backstage or the front stage. Everything becomes one. That original you, then brings together the right souls around you. You will see the other souls which live in oneness. Those new relationships you will build last forever, much beyond this life. Those new relationships are built on who you really are, not who you pretend to be. If pretension on the other hand can take you to the real you, then become that real you eventually. The purpose of this life is to become one with who you really are.

Start dropping the skins on you, peeling yourself from yourself one by one. Washing yourself of yourself one by one. Letting go of who you really not are and getting to who you are. Trust that being courageous brings you to the right place, time and the new relationships. That is what who you really are.

Love now

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“Now is where love breathes.” ~ Rumi

We have started taking love for granted. Love is something which is started by the body, we realize it sometimes goes to the heart. Most of the times, due to this material world we are attracted to physical appearances. Especially when physical appearances combined with words which make us temporarily happy – we construe it for love. Some other times when we meet someone we know it is beyond the body, we tend to exude love which we cannot control. But your heart suddenly beats for that person or place. You feel automatically at exuberance, at your peak of happiness. Some other times even better, we just feel extremely comfortable, at peace. That is not connected to any physical changes in you. It is just limitless joy and a sense of complete satisfaction. That feeling which you never had before, never experienced before, but just completely engulfs you. This also combines with a familiar feeling of knowing this before sometime, but not relate to it. You keep thinking that you know this feeling, but cannot remember. That is love. This might not be for a person alone, it can be for a place, thing or environment. That feeling of being with yourself.

Love cannot live if you bind it to conditions. Love must be unbound, unconditional.

We generally connect love to “I loved you because….”, “You were so different, I loved you then…”, “If you become this…I will love you”. We tend to connect love to conditions. There is no real love then. Love is bound to certain of your mind’s conditions. Love is not breathing then. What happens when you unbound love? How does unconditional love feel like? You have no memory of the past nor expectations of the future. All that is there is that moment that you feel totally and completely at peace. That moment can only happen if you are absorbed in the present. The “now” is totally devoid of any memories. Every moment is new, every moment is special and it is an opportunity to live it fully. If we lament about the past or aspire for the future, we are not experiencing what that moment is meant for. That moment is for you to experience that love which is around you. Find solace in that love which is totally unconditional.

It is time to first understand what that love is. That love which is devoid of any connections to the known you. If you are able to associate any love to any part of your body or heart – think more carefully. That kind of love is linked to satisfying your needs in the future or based on your past experiences. Love has to be that feeling of the moment which makes you comfortable, makes you at peace rather than increasing your passion or lust or attraction. Love that makes way for peace, calmness to appear and give birth to compassion. That is pure love. That is a feeling which can only happen in the now. Find that place, person or environment and go back there, go back home.

Empty weakness

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“Give your weakness to one who helps.” ~ Rumi

We have been living in a world where showing your weakness is considered really bad. When you cannot express weakness and if it has a negative connotation, why would you even uncover your weakness? We have become so used to not just seeing it, but live in a state of denial about our weakness. Only when we know what is less, we can then seek for it. There must not be any hindrances in us to go and seek what is missing in us. Accepting that we do not have someone or something is the first step towards getting there. Why do we have to see weakness in a negative light? What you do not have or possess is something that you can get or acquire. Why make a big issue out of it? When you are able to see weaknesses in this light – first acceptance is born. You accept yourself that you have some and you do not have some other. There is absolutely no right or wrong. That comes only in a state of pure acceptance. Denial has no place in this, denial is living in a constant veil of a misconception. The minute you remove denial, everything is fine. what you have and what you do not have. These lines of Rumi are part of a longer poem, which has these lines too.

Crying out loud and weeping are great resources. A nursing mother, all she does is wait to hear her child. Just a little beginning-whimper, and she’s there.

The more you deny, the more weak you get. Let go and you are free.

What we are taught is to contain and not display our weaknesses. It is true that the more we keep them, they stay with you, making you more weak. Why deny something which you do not want? If you do not want something you must let it go, or fill it with what can take that away. You have to cry out loud of your weakness. You must believe that someone is there to take care of your weakness. A mother is always waiting for the child’s cry. She knows what to do to remove that weakness of the child. The more the child contains, the more it suffers. The minute the mother knows, the pain is gone. You have to first know where and how you are weak, say it aloud, be open and willing to let go. You do not need to be weak, you need the strength and someone is willing to give you that. Only when you consciously know what you need, you will find it. Only when you are empty, you can fill yourself. Never let weaknesses fill you, for there is no space for strength. Pour it out so your mother will come. The mother who can nurse all your wants.

There is no point of being a stone. You are made of emotions and weaknesses. There is absolutely no denial in that, let the emotions flow, let your tears out, howl in knowing your weakness – goodness and strength awaits to fill you up!

Self suspicion

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“I should be suspicious of what I want.” ~ Rumi

Our wants are becoming vast. The more we have, the more we want. We are tending to forget our needs – but rather go on and dream more and more – all resulting in more wants. The unfortunate thing of our lives is that whatever we want is all from this world. First are material wants – which grows from one to another. Anything material leads only to another. There is no time when we get something which we desperately wanted and that is the end of that want. It is definitely going to lead you to something else. The world also operates in such a way now. Most of the things which we want, satisfy us only temporarily. Those things are also designed in such a way, that they should not give you a permanent satisfaction. They tend to gratify you instantly, but keep you longing for more. This cycle is what this world thrives upon. Second, we want relationships. Some relationships satisfy us for a much longer period, but as we are losing patience – even that period is shrinking. We can only satisfy our want for relationships till a time we can bear with it. As the wants are changing all the time, so does our need for relationships. The more we associate our relationships to our core needs, the less we will hanker for new ones. The last is the wants for your soul. This is what we spend the most insignificant time on. It also happens that the more you satisfy your own soul, the lesser and lesser wants you will see in yourself.

Awareness makes material immaterial and relationships satisfied.

Where does your wants arise from? Typically material wants arise from your mind, relationship wants from your heart and the awareness wants from your soul. We are normally consumed by the mind then by the heart and last by the soul. The minute we are able to associate our wants to these origins, you will start to prioritize. The more deeper we go and start catering to our awareness needs of our soul – the rest of the wants become immaterial. We start to see that our awareness makes you totally at peace and at deepest satisfaction. We have to become suspicious of ourselves. Start questioning – “Why am I like this?”, “Where is this want coming from?”, “Is it really necessary?”. Even if we momentarily give in and get to that want to satisfy our senses or heart, we will not be attached to it. Whether that want is satisfied or not – it would not make any difference to you. The want needs to get suppressed but you are not affected by it. The minute you go to the origins of the want, you will see they start to disappear. They start to become immaterial. You will still have those material and relationships around you – but without any sense of attachment. They will just happen but your soul is at peace. You are enjoying no matter what the want is, because the result is not affecting you.

Go ahead, feel the need for awareness in you. If you get to the awareness, all wants disappear and make you satisfied. Be at bliss, the only way is to get yourself detached. That detachment is going to deliver you of all wants.