Love’s child

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“I am a child of love.” ~ Rumi

When you are in love, many things do not matter. Everyone around us thinks us to be insane, but we continue to bask in love. We enjoy that very moment and we are oblivious to everything else. The true nature of love is to let go of everything. Any fault does not matter for love. You do not expect anything except that you be in that love. Nothing else matters. Remember the time you were in absolute love, you did not want to eat, sleep, talk, move or do anything. You just enjoyed being in that moment, in that love completely. That love is precious, rare and unique to yourself. It is also true that what you feel at peace with the moment, might not be for someone else. Every individual has that moment of love, that moment which they do not want to give away. Love increases multifold if you are able to have a conversation in silence with the beloved. It is not words that grow love, it is the lack of it. If you are able to quietly communicate, your thoughts and feelings expand multifold. It is such a wonderful feeling to be in love and be loved, and understand and be understood and be romantic and be romanced – all without uttering a word, without an action. A mere glance of an eye, the presence of the beloved or just a simple thought of the other – gives you so much peace and love.

We all are made of just pure love, all we need to do is to unlock the heart.

When you are a child of love, you just live now. You are devoid of expectations and just want to enjoy the moment. More than anything, you are a child. A child has no pre-conceived notions, nor expectations of tomorrow. The child just resonates with the present and enjoys the moments around it. He or She smiles to the environment and does nothing but to emanate love. The child just melts away your thoughts and brings you to realize the precious moments of love. Being with that child just makes you calmer. When you start being in love and emanate love unconditionally to everyone around you, you become that child, you make the place more peaceful and calmer. You do not distinguish from one to another. The love in your heart for your beloved, emanates to everyone around you. You give and receive love. The more unconditional it is, the better the environment becomes. You just become the centerpiece of attention in any place you are. People naturally come towards you, no one can reject true love, everyone needs a bit of pure love, everyone gravitates towards love.

Be a child, a love’s child. That innocence of not differentiating anyone to receive your pure love, that love which does not have any expectations of the future nor the memories of the past, that love which is unconditional, that love which makes everyone bask in your positive thoughts, that love which has nothing to offer except peace and that love which never ends. All you have to do is to open up!

Being you

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“Appear as you are. Be as you appear.” ~ Rumi

Duality is in all of us. We do not want to reveal ourselves as much as we like to, simply because we might be taken for granted. People might use us, leverage our weaknesses and put us down. The more sophisticated this life becomes, the more faces we have and every time hide the many faces. The more you become unreadable to someone else, you are seen as a very successful person. The more you own about yourself, the little others know about you. That veil of pretension is what you get praised for. We see this all around us. We are continuously deceived by people around us whom we trust the most and also somewhere even though small, we deceive others. It is the level of duality we all are, but the truth is deception. Deception comes purely because we live in fear. There is an element of fear in our lives – fear of unmasking ourselves. The fear to let go of our various skins. The fear of being naked in front of yourself. We adore ourselves with the multiple faces we own, similar to the pride of owning and wearing so many clothes. Everyday we dress ourselves with a new cloth, a new face and a new you. It is just adding layers to yourself. It is amazing how we never had any of these pretensions when we were growing up. When we were children, we were just having one face. That one face just reflected who you were. Look around our children- they always are what they are. Never afraid to cry for the simplest things, never scared of letting their emotions go away, never holding on to their aspirations.

Looking at yourself, peel the layers off you from yourself.

Courage replaces fear. The minute you become bold and want to go back to your own self, you are extremely courageous. You do not worry about the faces, what matters is just that one face – the naked self which you will be to everyone including you. It is all about accepting who you are, however you are. It is about letting go of your skins and expressing you as you are. When you start doing this, everyone around you might not like it. People and relationships which came to you looking at your other skins, will leave you. The more you let go of people around you, the more original you can become. The lesser you put up your acts, the more real you become. There is no backstage or the front stage. Everything becomes one. That original you, then brings together the right souls around you. You will see the other souls which live in oneness. Those new relationships you will build last forever, much beyond this life. Those new relationships are built on who you really are, not who you pretend to be. If pretension on the other hand can take you to the real you, then become that real you eventually. The purpose of this life is to become one with who you really are.

Start dropping the skins on you, peeling yourself from yourself one by one. Washing yourself of yourself one by one. Letting go of who you really not are and getting to who you are. Trust that being courageous brings you to the right place, time and the new relationships. That is what who you really are.

Empty weakness

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“Give your weakness to one who helps.” ~ Rumi

We have been living in a world where showing your weakness is considered really bad. When you cannot express weakness and if it has a negative connotation, why would you even uncover your weakness? We have become so used to not just seeing it, but live in a state of denial about our weakness. Only when we know what is less, we can then seek for it. There must not be any hindrances in us to go and seek what is missing in us. Accepting that we do not have someone or something is the first step towards getting there. Why do we have to see weakness in a negative light? What you do not have or possess is something that you can get or acquire. Why make a big issue out of it? When you are able to see weaknesses in this light – first acceptance is born. You accept yourself that you have some and you do not have some other. There is absolutely no right or wrong. That comes only in a state of pure acceptance. Denial has no place in this, denial is living in a constant veil of a misconception. The minute you remove denial, everything is fine. what you have and what you do not have. These lines of Rumi are part of a longer poem, which has these lines too.

Crying out loud and weeping are great resources. A nursing mother, all she does is wait to hear her child. Just a little beginning-whimper, and she’s there.

The more you deny, the more weak you get. Let go and you are free.

What we are taught is to contain and not display our weaknesses. It is true that the more we keep them, they stay with you, making you more weak. Why deny something which you do not want? If you do not want something you must let it go, or fill it with what can take that away. You have to cry out loud of your weakness. You must believe that someone is there to take care of your weakness. A mother is always waiting for the child’s cry. She knows what to do to remove that weakness of the child. The more the child contains, the more it suffers. The minute the mother knows, the pain is gone. You have to first know where and how you are weak, say it aloud, be open and willing to let go. You do not need to be weak, you need the strength and someone is willing to give you that. Only when you consciously know what you need, you will find it. Only when you are empty, you can fill yourself. Never let weaknesses fill you, for there is no space for strength. Pour it out so your mother will come. The mother who can nurse all your wants.

There is no point of being a stone. You are made of emotions and weaknesses. There is absolutely no denial in that, let the emotions flow, let your tears out, howl in knowing your weakness – goodness and strength awaits to fill you up!

Beautiful stillness

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“All your restlessness is out of your desire for stillness” ~ Rumi

How many times have you felt that you are staring into something empty? How many times have you had not even a single thought cross your mind, but still feel nothing different? There are many times, where your mind completely blanks out, you are absorbed in nothingness. It is strange but everyone faces this sometimes. It depends on how frequently you are into that state and out. But the truth is – those moments are precious. When someone near you, alerts you and says “Hey what happened?” you realise there was nothing which happened. It is surprising for the other person and sometimes even you. How can you be without a thought? That is the beauty of being still. You are still because there is nothing to disturb you, no thought crosses your mind and you are absorbed in the beauty of your own soul. That moment is extremely special, memorable and treasure-worthy. Somewhere deep in our hearts we yearn for those moments, but they rarely happen. Can you aspire to be in that state for a very long time? may be forever? is it really possible?

Being calm and centred is the true state of our soul, rest are merely disturbances.

On the other hand, when we have to realise the stillness – we have to be as restless we can be. It is like reaching the extremes to appreciate the other. Why do you feel restless? what makes you hanker? the root cause is dissatisfaction. Even though there could be others involved in making you distressed you might blame them, but the actual fact is that you are not satisfied. You need to first satisfy yourself completely before you reach the stillness. The more you yearn for being still, the less and less you will feel restless. The true nature of you is being calm. When children are quiet – have you wondered what are they thinking? what can the small minds be thinking and making them so quiet, so satisfied. There are moments where you do not realise this – they are often in this state. Children are closer to their soul than we are. When they are quiet, they are still and that is the true nature. How beautiful is to even watch those innocent faces be quiet in stillness. Absolutely calm without any ego, any aspiration, any hatred – just be blank, be still, be satisfied.

Start noticing that your soul wants that stillness, be as restless as you can – knowing well that all this will lead you to that stillness. When you are able to embrace that stillness – yearn for more. You will see that you will become more and more still. Don’t listen to anyone, being thoughtless and blank is beautiful. Remain so. You will become more and more clearer for yourself.