Being you

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“Appear as you are. Be as you appear.” ~ Rumi

Duality is in all of us. We do not want to reveal ourselves as much as we like to, simply because we might be taken for granted. People might use us, leverage our weaknesses and put us down. The more sophisticated this life becomes, the more faces we have and every time hide the many faces. The more you become unreadable to someone else, you are seen as a very successful person. The more you own about yourself, the little others know about you. That veil of pretension is what you get praised for. We see this all around us. We are continuously deceived by people around us whom we trust the most and also somewhere even though small, we deceive others. It is the level of duality we all are, but the truth is deception. Deception comes purely because we live in fear. There is an element of fear in our lives – fear of unmasking ourselves. The fear to let go of our various skins. The fear of being naked in front of yourself. We adore ourselves with the multiple faces we own, similar to the pride of owning and wearing so many clothes. Everyday we dress ourselves with a new cloth, a new face and a new you. It is just adding layers to yourself. It is amazing how we never had any of these pretensions when we were growing up. When we were children, we were just having one face. That one face just reflected who you were. Look around our children- they always are what they are. Never afraid to cry for the simplest things, never scared of letting their emotions go away, never holding on to their aspirations.

Looking at yourself, peel the layers off you from yourself.

Courage replaces fear. The minute you become bold and want to go back to your own self, you are extremely courageous. You do not worry about the faces, what matters is just that one face – the naked self which you will be to everyone including you. It is all about accepting who you are, however you are. It is about letting go of your skins and expressing you as you are. When you start doing this, everyone around you might not like it. People and relationships which came to you looking at your other skins, will leave you. The more you let go of people around you, the more original you can become. The lesser you put up your acts, the more real you become. There is no backstage or the front stage. Everything becomes one. That original you, then brings together the right souls around you. You will see the other souls which live in oneness. Those new relationships you will build last forever, much beyond this life. Those new relationships are built on who you really are, not who you pretend to be. If pretension on the other hand can take you to the real you, then become that real you eventually. The purpose of this life is to become one with who you really are.

Start dropping the skins on you, peeling yourself from yourself one by one. Washing yourself of yourself one by one. Letting go of who you really not are and getting to who you are. Trust that being courageous brings you to the right place, time and the new relationships. That is what who you really are.

Beautiful stillness

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“All your restlessness is out of your desire for stillness” ~ Rumi

How many times have you felt that you are staring into something empty? How many times have you had not even a single thought cross your mind, but still feel nothing different? There are many times, where your mind completely blanks out, you are absorbed in nothingness. It is strange but everyone faces this sometimes. It depends on how frequently you are into that state and out. But the truth is – those moments are precious. When someone near you, alerts you and says “Hey what happened?” you realise there was nothing which happened. It is surprising for the other person and sometimes even you. How can you be without a thought? That is the beauty of being still. You are still because there is nothing to disturb you, no thought crosses your mind and you are absorbed in the beauty of your own soul. That moment is extremely special, memorable and treasure-worthy. Somewhere deep in our hearts we yearn for those moments, but they rarely happen. Can you aspire to be in that state for a very long time? may be forever? is it really possible?

Being calm and centred is the true state of our soul, rest are merely disturbances.

On the other hand, when we have to realise the stillness – we have to be as restless we can be. It is like reaching the extremes to appreciate the other. Why do you feel restless? what makes you hanker? the root cause is dissatisfaction. Even though there could be others involved in making you distressed you might blame them, but the actual fact is that you are not satisfied. You need to first satisfy yourself completely before you reach the stillness. The more you yearn for being still, the less and less you will feel restless. The true nature of you is being calm. When children are quiet – have you wondered what are they thinking? what can the small minds be thinking and making them so quiet, so satisfied. There are moments where you do not realise this – they are often in this state. Children are closer to their soul than we are. When they are quiet, they are still and that is the true nature. How beautiful is to even watch those innocent faces be quiet in stillness. Absolutely calm without any ego, any aspiration, any hatred – just be blank, be still, be satisfied.

Start noticing that your soul wants that stillness, be as restless as you can – knowing well that all this will lead you to that stillness. When you are able to embrace that stillness – yearn for more. You will see that you will become more and more still. Don’t listen to anyone, being thoughtless and blank is beautiful. Remain so. You will become more and more clearer for yourself.

The true you

DSC_0036I come to you without me, come to me without you.~Rumi

When is the time you can be without you? To understand this – we must go deeper into what really constitutes you? The true nature of every individual being is goodness. By original nature, we are pure and not clouded. True innocence beholds the minute we go deeper into ourselves. How can we go to the original “you”?

When we start shedding our falseness, true nature beholds.

When we grow up and the so called process of maturing ourselves, we do not realise that we are only adding layers of so called knowledge, societal norms, rules that govern us, to-do’s, cannot-do’s and so much more. We tend to become absolved into these thinking that this is the true nature we are supposed to be. We have in this process, forgotten our innocence. We are reminded time and again by our children and children around us – we refuse to see it, only belittling it by saying that this “kiddish”. By the time we start seeing how our true nature is covered layer by layer with these growing up falsities, we are already too deep in them.

The time is now to start stripping our false covers one by one. This is not an easy one – as we have fallen in love with our new corrupt “you” – it’s hard to let go. There are so many things which binds us. We have to start stripping slowly but steadily -with conviction that this is not me and this must go. This takes time, as we have so many covers till we reach the true “you”. When we reach there, nothing else matters – because we would already be in bliss.

If we can practice this in our relationships, there is no expectations – when you are the real you, where is the question of even expecting.