Fault blamer

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“The fault is in the blamer. The spirit sees nothing to criticize.” ~ Rumi

We are judgmental. We have become critical about everything. Opinions, blame, taking sides, curse and arguments are part of our daily lives. We see this everywhere. Everything around us takes a shape or form about complaints. The key issue about all this is wanting the world to work a certain way. If it is not our way, we tend to have opinions. We want people, things and relationships to be exactly how we want it. We are so immersed in ourselves most of the time that we tend not to even see the other person’s feelings. Its about us, it is about our ego. We are becoming less and less empathetic towards others and our surroundings. We are finding fault in everything and everyone around us. We have become less and less satisfied with what we have. Most of the time we are outward looking and always trying to find a reason to point outward and pass the blame. We have forgotten to look inwards and many times we might be the reason of the problem or fault. How can we ignore ourselves and only point to others all the time? Where does blame originate? It comes only from our mind. Judgement happens only in the mind. Opinions need logic. Logic needs analysis. Analysis needs right and wrong. All this happens in our mind. Mind controls us most of the time, so the more we are controlled only in logic and finding faults.

Drop all that you know, for everything is immaterial in the plane of the spirit.

When you see everyone around you as just the spirit and the body as a covering – then you do not see the mind. You see fellow souls and equal spirits. We are totally one and the same. Be it a young boy, a little girl, a woman, a man or a withering old body. Everything is the same. Even if you look at the other beings – animals, insects, birds and all known forms – you will realize we are all covered by the body which covers the spirit. Mind rests in the body and if you remove all of this – there is nothing to be opinionated about. There is no reason to logic. There is no memory. There is neither past nor future. We are all one and the same and the minute we see each other as equals – we will never point externally. Pointing to the other becomes meaningless as at that level, as you are pointing at yourself. You are no different from the other. That brings not just compassion, it brings oneness. It brings the humility and nurtures care for each other. There is no ego which can play at that level. You are also equally insignificant as the other. All of us are no different from the universe.

When can you move away from this mind? Mind is the main reason for our judgements. Lets leave it behind. Become a neutral person, there is absolutely no right and wrong in a plane which belongs to the spirit. Drop all that you know, for everything is immaterial in that plane.

Love now

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“Now is where love breathes.” ~ Rumi

We have started taking love for granted. Love is something which is started by the body, we realize it sometimes goes to the heart. Most of the times, due to this material world we are attracted to physical appearances. Especially when physical appearances combined with words which make us temporarily happy – we construe it for love. Some other times when we meet someone we know it is beyond the body, we tend to exude love which we cannot control. But your heart suddenly beats for that person or place. You feel automatically at exuberance, at your peak of happiness. Some other times even better, we just feel extremely comfortable, at peace. That is not connected to any physical changes in you. It is just limitless joy and a sense of complete satisfaction. That feeling which you never had before, never experienced before, but just completely engulfs you. This also combines with a familiar feeling of knowing this before sometime, but not relate to it. You keep thinking that you know this feeling, but cannot remember. That is love. This might not be for a person alone, it can be for a place, thing or environment. That feeling of being with yourself.

Love cannot live if you bind it to conditions. Love must be unbound, unconditional.

We generally connect love to “I loved you because….”, “You were so different, I loved you then…”, “If you become this…I will love you”. We tend to connect love to conditions. There is no real love then. Love is bound to certain of your mind’s conditions. Love is not breathing then. What happens when you unbound love? How does unconditional love feel like? You have no memory of the past nor expectations of the future. All that is there is that moment that you feel totally and completely at peace. That moment can only happen if you are absorbed in the present. The “now” is totally devoid of any memories. Every moment is new, every moment is special and it is an opportunity to live it fully. If we lament about the past or aspire for the future, we are not experiencing what that moment is meant for. That moment is for you to experience that love which is around you. Find solace in that love which is totally unconditional.

It is time to first understand what that love is. That love which is devoid of any connections to the known you. If you are able to associate any love to any part of your body or heart – think more carefully. That kind of love is linked to satisfying your needs in the future or based on your past experiences. Love has to be that feeling of the moment which makes you comfortable, makes you at peace rather than increasing your passion or lust or attraction. Love that makes way for peace, calmness to appear and give birth to compassion. That is pure love. That is a feeling which can only happen in the now. Find that place, person or environment and go back there, go back home.

Grieve happily

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“Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form.” ~Rumi

What makes us sad? when we lose something we hold dear to our heart. When something leaves us which is important to us, we tend to feel bad. We really want to hold on to it. We always feel “it is ours”. We possess a lot of things, many things unwanted and many things we hold dear to. It is amazing the number of material possessions we hold on to. We gather so many things hoping that one day we will use it. We are very prepared for the rainy day, or even if it is for one day in a year – we want to hold on to that thing which we will use just once. How have we become so attached to it? Imagine a day when we do not have it, we feel sad -we want it. We may not grieve for something so material as much – but we do grieve for people, pets and living things around us. The more we are attached to someone, the minute we do not have them with us, we grieve the most. It brings us so much sadness and pain that we are not able to do anything else. We are so attached to things and people around us that we have enough to grieve every day.

Next is about qualities which we hold. Unfortunately we do not save so much good qualities in us consciously that we have enough for the rainy day. We are so busy gathering physical things and relationships, that we have very little time to gather good qualities. How many times have we consciously gathered goodness, compassion, empathy, love and kindness? Do we have enough to grieve when we lose them?

Lose yourself, lose your identity – it comes back as a greatest gift of self realisation.

Have you realised that something we might lose today, eventually comes back to us in some form? Many times we tend to lose material possessions and it comes back as great qualities for us. We do not see it as we do not see and welcome good qualities which are coming to us. Whatever goes away from you, comes back as qualities which will stop you from grief. If you lost some money and in turn nature sends you abundance kindness – you will be beyond grief as you are so kind to yourself too. Try losing ego, and it comes back as a wonderful gift of happiness and joy. Lose yourself, lose your identity – it comes back as a greatest gift of self realisation. You must lose something to gain something. When something is going away from you, be happy and ready to welcome the big gift you are about to receive. You have to trust nature and yourself enough that any grief coming your way is handled by your trust. When you are calm and happy – no grief can touch you. It can be anything – even losing a dear one – gives you a gift of becoming wiser. You tend to see what you have lost is not something lost – but you have just let go. Losing is negative whereas “letting go” is positive. Let go, it is wonderful.

Break your heart

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“You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens” ~Rumi

We all have had many heart breaks in life. We have faced it many times, but every time it shakes us to the core. We always wonder – “why me?”. Be it friends who betray at the worst times, friends whom you thought are the best partners but suddenly disappear from your life without a reason nor a trace, be it the person you thought you were madly in love with, who end up being such an alien whom you wondered “is this for real?”, or be it family – the people whom you can always trust as a place to go back to but suddenly turning against you. All of this breaks us up. We have to patiently stitch our lives together after such things. We have to carefully do it, even though we break down again and again during that process. Sometimes, we end up doing these things on us knowingly. We end up breaking relationships which hurts us so bad, we break down again. We feel that we are doing the right thing by doing these. Almost all of these times, we forget that whenever we break down we rise up wiser and stronger.

The more and more we break down, the soul becomes clearer and clearer.

The trick is to remember every break down. We want to forget our bad moments that we hold so much hatred towards. We must not attach hatred to the tough times, rather see it as opening us. We have to be thankful for each of these heart breaks. Only with them, we will find the real us. It is hard, as it concerns the heart. I see this as the more and more we break down, the soul becomes clearer and clearer. You are able to see yourself, act upon, concentrate on your strength, become wiser only when you go deeper and see your soul. That happens only in the moments where you break yourself apart. The heartaches caused by people really makes you go deeper and deeper inside yourself. The more tears we shed, the more it clears the cloud of illusionary relationships. The more we discover that we are much more purer than what we think we are. The minute we open our hearts, an amazing world of grace, love, peace and compassion awaits.

Go ahead, feel the inner you, drop the layers of hatred, drop the memories of the past, you will arise fresh and stronger. clearer and focussed. determined and driven. Full of peace and emanate love. That is the real you.