Love & your self.

This is a subtle truth.
Whatever you love, you are. ~ Rumi

There is a very old adage. “You are what you eat”, But Rumi takes us to something which is much more deeper and dearer to who you are in your very own being. We are all attracted to whatever we experience and witness because internally we want them. When we smell a flower, taste and enjoy a food we like, or just witness the morning dew on the grass – every single act we do, every word we speak reflects who we are. We get attracted to like-minded souls, people who can speak our language of the heart and soul or relationships which appreciate who we are for what we are. If there is anything which comes our way which does not resonate with, we instantly repel it – either in the mind, heart or soul. Whatever we might repel, is sometimes attractive to someone else. Everything which has been manifested is dear to someone or the other. Every being and thing has its purpose, meaning, love, attraction, and reason. Can it be that whatever manifests in our own lives is simply a reflection of what we are inside of us? How does that what we dearly love and appreciate something or someone, that exact thing or person with those qualities comes across in our lives? Our heart and soul and our deepest desires or wishes are much more connected to the universe than we can imagine or believe in. We indeed are a collective of souls who manifest the evolution of the world.

What you deeply want from within gets its form somewhere in this universe and on yourself.

Attraction assumes that you merely attract it from what is already created. But, when we look deeper we can see that we are the ones who create what we deeply love. Moreover, we are what we love. Everything that is dear to us is what makes us and the world around us. We start to become what we love the most. If we love the qualities of a living being or an animal or a thing, we start to exhibit those unconsciously. We are not merely mimicking or reflecting those, but truly transforming ourselves to embrace them. This is what defines the character of every individual. Each one of us are unique beings – simply because we all have a different and unique collection of things we love dearly. Each of those shows up in us in a different part of us. We are continuously shaped by our choices and preferences of what we love. If you truly believe and trust in love and kindness, you start to exude it almost immediately. This is also true in the case of anger or hate. Not only our characteristics change, our bodies continuously change physically. Our bodies have to adapt to what our internal beings are becoming. The minute we are conscious of this, we will start loving things which we want to express and become.

Grieve happily

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“Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form.” ~Rumi

What makes us sad? when we lose something we hold dear to our heart. When something leaves us which is important to us, we tend to feel bad. We really want to hold on to it. We always feel “it is ours”. We possess a lot of things, many things unwanted and many things we hold dear to. It is amazing the number of material possessions we hold on to. We gather so many things hoping that one day we will use it. We are very prepared for the rainy day, or even if it is for one day in a year – we want to hold on to that thing which we will use just once. How have we become so attached to it? Imagine a day when we do not have it, we feel sad -we want it. We may not grieve for something so material as much – but we do grieve for people, pets and living things around us. The more we are attached to someone, the minute we do not have them with us, we grieve the most. It brings us so much sadness and pain that we are not able to do anything else. We are so attached to things and people around us that we have enough to grieve every day.

Next is about qualities which we hold. Unfortunately we do not save so much good qualities in us consciously that we have enough for the rainy day. We are so busy gathering physical things and relationships, that we have very little time to gather good qualities. How many times have we consciously gathered goodness, compassion, empathy, love and kindness? Do we have enough to grieve when we lose them?

Lose yourself, lose your identity – it comes back as a greatest gift of self realisation.

Have you realised that something we might lose today, eventually comes back to us in some form? Many times we tend to lose material possessions and it comes back as great qualities for us. We do not see it as we do not see and welcome good qualities which are coming to us. Whatever goes away from you, comes back as qualities which will stop you from grief. If you lost some money and in turn nature sends you abundance kindness – you will be beyond grief as you are so kind to yourself too. Try losing ego, and it comes back as a wonderful gift of happiness and joy. Lose yourself, lose your identity – it comes back as a greatest gift of self realisation. You must lose something to gain something. When something is going away from you, be happy and ready to welcome the big gift you are about to receive. You have to trust nature and yourself enough that any grief coming your way is handled by your trust. When you are calm and happy – no grief can touch you. It can be anything – even losing a dear one – gives you a gift of becoming wiser. You tend to see what you have lost is not something lost – but you have just let go. Losing is negative whereas “letting go” is positive. Let go, it is wonderful.